Anne is a woman of ideals.
She dreamed of a tall dark handsome man with a never ending list of alluring qualities. After rejecting Gilbert, Anne is told by several she won’t find her ideal man. That Gilbert may not be what she wants, but he’s good enough. Even Anne herself says, “He’s hardly my ideal…”
This got me thinking. So many times, women set a standard for the kind of man they want to marry. They make a list. Definitely checking it more than Santa Claus and never finding the “perfect” man.
They’re picky. Well, some are. Not everyone who sets standards for a guy sets them the wrong way. There are standards and there are standards.
I was asked once by a guy what I was looking for in a husband. I really hadn’t given much thought. Really, I hadn’t.
Of course, I wanted him to be a believer, dedicated to the Lord, interested in ministry, good with kids, kind, patient, blah, blah. But I never made a list. I just knew those things were part of the character of a godly man and recognized them when I saw them.
I’ve always been quite conservative. When I was in high-school, I met maybe one guy as conservative as I. The kinda guy I thought I might be able to marry. I don’t watch what everyone watches nor do I listen to the Top 10. I’m not into tv that much and am not a fan of being one of the crowd. So, without meeting many who thought like me, I imagined I’d end up single or God was gonna have to throw someone at me.
But there was the other option. One the enemy wedged in there quite often as well.
Settling for less.
That’s what everyone told Anne. You’ll have to settle for less than your dream man. Yet, her desires for a man were superficial and physical. Not life changing or theological. She eventually did not marry the kind of man who she thought was best for her, but married the man who was best for her.
Girls, don’t make a list with what kind of music he needs to like, what kind of hobbies he has to have, the color of his hair, and build. You will have to rethink your list eventually.
Do recognize what a man of God is and seek to surround yourself with those who seek Him first. Don’t settle for less in the belief department or conviction area. Those are the elements which create part of your soul and spirit and “dumbing” them down dumbs the One who created you. Never listen to anyone who tells you you need to settle for a man who seeks God’s word less than you and who will make you be the spiritual leader.
God will orchestrate the music which brings you to the one who He has for you. Listen to Him and stick to what He has shown you to be of value.
~I wasn’t looking for someone. I wasn’t expecting anything.
And then God opened my heart and eyes to what He had, and I’ve been more thankful everyday. <3
“This masked “nice guy” is truly a wolf in sheep’s clothing. He is often to hard to detect at first, as he is quite skillfull at maintaining his guise. But if one looks closely he can easily be identified by three basic traits. First, this nice guy never really gets angry- at least not at first. Secondly, he is wonderfully sensitive and understanding, again for a time. And third, he is highly motivated to be supportive and helpful, provided the woman expresses early and often, her gratitude and appreciation, and also spends all her free time with him.
